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So I went out to this event at some bar/restaurant that I can’t remember the name of right now but I had a pretty good time. It was a networking event for models, actors, filmmakers and producers.
When I first got there I ran into one of my friends who I haven’t seen in a while who owns a casting agency. We talked for a minute and he introduced me to some cute chicks.
After that I went to the bar and got a soda. I didn’t want to get a drink because sodas are cheaper at bars than an alcoholic drink and on top of that I don’t want liquor in my system when I’m networking or when I’m just hollering at chicks.
While I’m at the bar I was talking to this fine ass indian chick. She reminded me of one of my ex girlfriends. We were talking and she was telling me that she was there by herself and that she felt kind of weird coming to a bar alone and that she was kind of freaked out and nervous by that. I find it interesting that a lot of conversations that I’ve had with women over the past couple of months had them telling me how scared they felt about doing something they did or how fearful they feel about what they are doing. I’m like what’s up with that.
Anyway so after I was talking to the cute indian chick this cute milf chick starts checking me out so I start talking to her but I’m kind of not paying attention to her after a while because I start to remember why I came to the spot in the first place which was to network on some business type shit but I’m getting distracted by the females in the spot.
It’s funny to me how when I talk to women sometimes or when women are around I get into mack mode automatically without even realizing it. I have to sometimes step back and stop myself and focus. It’s like my mind is conditioned to just flirt every time I’m talking to a chick. Even when I’m not even that attracted to a chick it just seems to happen.
So now I’m going around the room talking to almost everyone I see and getting my networking on and trying not to get all touchy feely with these chicks. It was hard too because a lot of the women in the spot were cooperating like a mother fucker.
I was talking to a couple of guys in the spot and we were pointing out to each other the women in the place that we think would get it. One girl who over heard us talking told us that we were creepy. That was fun.
By the end of the night I got a lot of numbers and business cards. I met this guy there that is doing a film that is going to be on HBO. He gave me his information and told me that he wants me to audition for the film. I’ll keep my fingers crossed. That would be great If I got that gig.
So I had a pretty good time at this event, met some cool people and kicked it with some cute chicks. This chick right here though……..NICE!!!!!!!!!!!.
Check out this He-Said/She-Said article that I did with Neely from thelovetrep.com
The question I posed to him is a common dilemma in the dating world: When’s the right time to sleep with someone you’re dating?
I appreciate how this conversation ended in a deeper understanding of men’s needs when it comes to dating and sex. Read through to the end to see what conclusions I came to based on this back-and-forth.
Mr. Locario: I think the right time to have sex with a guy you are dating is at least by the third date. You should not wait any longer, because the guy might start to lose interest in you or think that you are playing games and just using him for attention or for his money. Also, the guy you are dating is most likely dating other girls. If those other girls are having sex with him and you aren’t, he might start paying more attention to the other girls.
Neely: That’s a bit surprising to me. So…third date: That’s, say, three weeks of knowing someone. At that point, he’s practically a stranger. What do you know about a man and his intentions after such a short amount of time? Mostly, though, I’d like to respond to your “he might start to lose interest” comment. I teach women to have boundaries and to not do things that go contrary to their needs out of fear of losing someone. Sleeping with a man so quickly simply out of the fear that he’ll ditch you for someone else is the wrong way to go, in my opinion. Now, if a woman is comfortable with this sort of casual sex and can detach herself from the outcome, then I say more power to her. It’s about knowing yourself and what you’re comfortable with. If you can honestly say to yourself: “I’m not sleeping with this guy as a way to manipulate him or trade sex for love. I’m sleeping with him, because I really want to for the sake of my own needs, and I’ll be okay with whatever happens,” then go for it. If you can’t genuinely say that to yourself, then continue to wait until you’re in a more comfortable place, or until you’re more certain that he values you for more than just a roll in the hay.